The Words of In Jin Moon from 2010
On the morning of May 16, 2010, Rev. In Jin Moon reminded the Lovin' Life Ministries congregation that we are truly the lucky ones. She reflected on articles written by the psychologist Richard Wiseman, who did research on the perception each of us has on our own luck. It was found that a person's luck tended to come from his or her open-mindedness, flexibility in how a goal can be accomplished, fearlessness -- reminding oneself of the big picture, and seeing each opportunity as something positive. Rev. In Jin Moon shared that we need to start believing in how lucky we are so that a feeling of gratitude can move our hearts together with God and we can have true success in our lives.
Good morning, brothers and sisters. How is everyone this morning? We missed you on Mother's Day weekend. Did all of you remember to wish your mother a Happy Mother's Day? Wonderful.
We're delighted to be back here in New York. As you've heard, our True Parents were in Las Vegas, and we had a great celebration together with them there, celebrating the coronation and the 50th wedding anniversary, together with the Legacy of Peace ceremony. So it was an all-inclusive, one-package, three-event deal. The members who assisted and attended the event, I think, came away feeling very inspired because Father really poured out his heart, not sticking to the text but speaking extemporaneously for over three hours. He shared a lot of love with all the members there. The dignitaries who came were totally knocked out; many of them said to me, "Although your father is 90-plus years of age, he struts around on stage like a 20-something. He can chastise us, he can implore us, and he can encourage us just like a very youthful man."
As I was watching this, I could not but feel that this is a man who has lived his life for God and for providence, but he really loves his American children. When he comes here, he's not always in the best of moods, but usually by the time he leaves, we send him back feeling very good. The last time I was in Korea, my siblings said to me, "What did you do to Father? He left Korea not so happy, but he came back looking 10 years younger." I said, "Well, maybe the American people, the American brothers and sisters, could make him feel how much we love our True Father and Mother." So, thank you.
Every time our True Father gives us the go-ahead or the direction for such and such an event, he doesn't give us much time. We had a week or two at the most to prepare the event, but more than 1,200 people showed up. I was thinking about all the different Legacy of Peace events that Father initiated, kicking them off at the United Nations, which is the symbol of unity and peace. Father went on to Washington, D.C., Manhattan, Las Vegas, and Hawaii before he went back to Korea.
Then he came back to Las Vegas again to do this triple bonanza event there, celebrating the coronation, the 50th wedding anniversary, and the Legacy of Peace, symbolizing eternal life and resurrection. When I was looking back at the way the Legacy of Peace tour unfolded, I realized that what seemed almost haphazard in Father picking Washington, New York, Las Vegas, and Hawaii all seemed to fall into place. March 18th was the first Legacy of Peace event, truly encouraging all of us to understand fully the ascension or the Seunghwa ceremony in the proper light, that the transitional moment back into the embrace of our Heavenly Father is really a day of celebration and gratitude. Father kicked that off at the United Nations, so we started the Legacy of Peace tour on the firm foundation of unity and peace.
Then Father went on to Washington, D.C. I've always thought that the name of this nation's capital is very interesting. The ton in Washington usually means "the town of," plus washing. Town of washing. I thought, how interesting that Father wanted to go to Washington with the spirit of cleansing and washing the American people and America to prepare all of us for a new understanding of what holy ascension is all about.
Then he went on to New York. For those of you who understand a little bit of Korean, many times Koreans who speak some English incorporate a few English words like new or good when they have conversations in Korean. But york in Korean means curse. If you really think about it, what Father is asking the New Yorkers to think about is to ask ourselves the very question, "Are we going to be the new curse of humanity? Or are we going to be the new 'yolk,'" like the yolk of an egg, which is the principal substance of an egg. It's the core of the egg; it's what becomes a chick. So is New York going to be the place where we will transmit the new curse to humanity? Or is this city going to be a place where we share with the world the principal substance, the breaking news, that our True Parents are here? That's the question we should ask ourselves as New Yorkers.
Then Father went on to Las Vegas, known as Sin City. Father has been challenging us to see if we can truly inject a bit of heaven into this sin city and turn it into a shining city on a hill. Next he went to Hawaii, a place that for me is like a taste of the Kingdom of Heaven. The Hawaiians all address each other with "Aloha," and I just found out on this last trip that aloha means "I love you." So you greet everybody with, "I love you."
I learned that Hawaiians don't really have a word for good-bye. I thought how appropriate it was for Father to end this leg of the Legacy of Peace tour in Hawaii. When we send our loved ones back to the embrace of our Heavenly Parent, we're not saying, "Good-bye." In the tradition of the Hawaiians, what we are saying is, "Until we meet again."
Hawaii was the place where Father said, "Good-bye," and left America for Korea. But I understood it as "Until we meet again." And meet again we did, last week in Las Vegas. I felt that Father was cleansing and preparing all of us to have a new understanding of what our transition into eternal life is all about, especially in light of the fact that the Korean people are in mourning. Father brought it all back home in that last weekend when he celebrated the coronation, the wedding anniversary, and the Legacy of Peace, reminding us that we are in good hands and that our Heavenly Parent is always with us.
It was uniquely interesting that we found ourselves back in this city known as Sin City, where lots of people come to try their luck, to see if they're lucky or not. You meet people from Moscow, Copenhagen, Japan, Korea, from all over the world that come to check if they are the lucky ones. But if we really think about it, who are the luckiest people? (Audience response: "We are.") Absolutely.
For those of us here, there's no need to test our luck. We are already jackpot winners in that we are living when our True Parents are here. We know that we are the eternal sons and daughters of God, and we know that we have this opportunity called life -- the chance to substantiate an ideal family and to experience what parental heart is all about. We are the luckiest people on earth.
I was reading some articles recently by the psychologist Richard Wiseman, author of a book called The Luck Factor. He has spent over 10 years researching people's perception of their luck. He learned through his studies that there are certain attributes or characteristics that he could identify in people who believed and articulated that they were lucky. The Gospel of Mark 11:23 tells us, "You shall have what you say." This passage reminds us the power of the spoken word.
Dr. Wiseman explained what he means by the characteristics that define what a lucky person is all about. He noticed that people who believed and articulated that they were lucky tended to be open-minded, always ready for fortuitous encounters. Because they were open-minded, they tended to be "people" people, meaning they liked the company of people, had large networks of friends and acquaintances, and were easy-going.
He noticed that these people, regardless of what kind of encounter they might experience, somehow managed to turn that encounter into a lucky break. He did an experiment in which he provided the same opportunities to two different people. He threw a coin on the street and asked these two people to walk down the street to a café, where he planted a businessman. The person that articulated and believed he was unlucky walked down the sidewalk and totally missed the coin that was right in front of him. Upon entering the café, instead of looking around, being open-minded, watching, maybe checking to see how God could work in his life, this person just sat down and started drinking coffee, missing the possible encounter with the planted businessman, who might have offered a business deal or a great partnership.
But the person who articulated that he was lucky walked down the very same street, found the coin, and was grateful for the chance to find such a gift. And with a grateful heart, he entered the café, where he saw this businessman, decided to engage him in conversation, and ended up with a great new business venture.
The psychologist concluded that with the same opportunity provided to two different people, a person's perception of what luck meant in life determines the outcome -- the good or the unfortunate. He went on to say that lucky people, or people who articulated that they were lucky, are not just open-minded but tend to be very flexible people, allowing God to work mysteriously in their lives. They tend to give life the opportunity. Both kinds of people may have defined goals. For instance, someone may want to be a top surgeon at the Mayo Clinic. A flexible person would approach that goal in a slightly different way. He might think, "I would like to be a top-notch doctor, providing the best service for my patients." By being flexible and allowing life to play a part in where he would end up, that person may wind up going to India, learning the language and culture, and meeting a beautiful wife.
What Dr. Wiseman discovered is that we are the ones who make life difficult, rigid, or confining because although we set goals for ourselves that may be good goals, we don't always know that there are many ways to get there. That knowledge is what gives us true fulfillment. We could slave away, wanting to be the top surgeon at Mayo Clinic, but the question we have to ask is, "Is that life fulfilling? Would I be happy there?" Maybe or maybe not. If the answer is "maybe not," it's perhaps because we didn't exercise our own creativity to consider different ways of getting there. Or maybe we weren't flexible enough to allow God to work mysteriously in our lives, unlike the person who was mysteriously led to India and found an eternal partner there.
Another characteristic that Dr. Wiseman noted in people who tend to articulate that they are very lucky is they tend to have the big picture in life, not getting lost in little details, or not getting so lost in details that they try too hard or maybe try so desperately that they end up missing the big picture.
When we're parents taking care of our children, many times we're so bogged down by the details. "I have to get the shopping done. I have to pick up my child by 5:00 o'clock. I have to schedule the dental appointments." We get lost in the shuffle of all the little things that we have to do. We can feel totally worn out, totally frayed, totally lost. But keeping that big picture in mind of why are we doing the little things that we do, we can think, "Maybe I can be 10 minutes late. Maybe I won't make it there by 5:00. Maybe I'm trying too hard, driving 80 miles an hour to get to the appointment on time. Maybe I can take it a little bit slower, a little bit safer, with a little more breathing room, with more gratitude because I am doing this for the child who has been placed in my care. How incredibly lucky I am."
From time to time, I need to remind myself about this point of keeping the big picture in mind because, of course, my job as a mother of five never stops, regardless of whether I'm working here at the Manhattan Center or at HSA. These children have needs. They need to be taken care of. My mind is always aware of what they need; many times when I cannot meet all of their needs, I get very desperate because I wish I could be there for them.
But Heavenly Father, or my mother's voice in the background, tells me, "Let things pass. The little details of life that bog you down -- let them pass. Give yourself that 10 minutes. Give yourself that breathing room. You are not a superwoman. That's okay. You are trying your best. Maybe if you're 10 minutes late, it might be an opportunity for your child to discover something great about him or herself. Maybe the child might realize, 'I don't need my Omma (mother) to do what I need to do.' Maybe it will give that child an opportunity to rise to the challenge, to maybe help me meet their needs."
Last Sunday after Service I was sharing lunch with some of my children. The others were spending time with their friends, but my husband and I and my eldest son and his wife Krista were sharing sandwiches. We were in an animated conversation about how Preston's new work is going, what's it like working for UBS, and he was excited to bring us up to date.
Out of the corner of my eye, I saw something move on the floor. At first when you see something shifting on the floor, you really don't want to look, but you have to, anyway. I'm usually not afraid of bugs, but one bug in particular I really do not like, Mr. Cockroach. This cockroach was enormous. It looked like a little boat moving across the floor. I pointed my finger without saying a word, and everyone looked at me, then at my finger. They all saw Mr. Cockroach and how humongo-bongo he was. After I regained my composure, I screamed, "Mr. Cockroach!"
At moments like that, what I envision is one of those "Calgon moments" from advertisements for bath powder in the early 1980s. The only way this crazed-out mother who looks like she survived the atomic bomb can get peace and calm is to take her Calgon bath. The minute she sinks into the tub, visions of paradise would appear, and she would feel secure and calm.
I grew up with seven brothers I could lean on, and if I screamed, my brothers would come to my rescue. Then I could have my Calgon moment of peace and calm because they would take care of Mr. Cockroach. But maybe because I was so spoiled by my brothers' rescues, I was blessed to a man who is equally scared of Mr. Cockroach. Some of our most vehement bickering occurred because of a cockroach. I would stop and point and scream, and he would stop and look and run away. I could not understand how a man could run away from a cockroach. I had seven brothers who would come to my rescue every time, but I had been given to a man who runs away.
The same thing occurred again. I pointed and screamed, and my husband got up, screamed, and ran away. Then I looked toward my son, Preston, and screamed, "Mr. Cockroach! Then he squealed and got up on the windowsill, clinging to the sill as if he were a curtain. I was horrified that not only was I not rescued by my husband, but my eldest son was standing on the windowsill. All these things were going through my mind: "What is wrong with my husband? What is wrong with my eldest son? These two were born in the year of the tiger. Why are they afraid of Mr. Cockroach?"
Usually after this bickering over a cockroach, I was the one who conked it on the head and disposed of it in the toilet. I was thinking, "Here I go again." Then out of the blue my daughter-in-law stood up, and mentally I heard heroic music in the background. Then she ran to the wastebasket, strode to the cockroach, and boom! She took care of Mr. Cockroach like the cockroach terminator. I was amazed and thought, "God works in mysterious ways!" Here I was, being so consumed by the details, over the fact that every time I scream "Mr. Cockroach," my husband runs away. But now I get the big picture. Heavenly Father married me to a man who's afraid of a cockroach, but he gave me a terminator of a daughter-in-law. I said, "Thank you, Heavenly Father. The power of the feminine strikes again."
I saw the big picture. Many times the little details leave us confused and frustrated. But when we can step back and let God work his mysterious magic in our lives, we get the big picture, and we realize it's a darned good one. I'm really proud of my cockroach terminator. Now I know who to call the next time I scream.
But here we are talking about the luck factor. Another characteristic that Dr. Wiseman saw in people who believe that they are lucky is that they tend to be fearless, not afraid of new encounters, new environments, or new opportunities. In fact, whenever something different is placed in the view of people who perceive themselves to be lucky, what they do is respond with a yes as opposed to a no. "Yes, let me try that. Let me take a look at that," instead of, "No, I'm afraid. No, I need to work out my anxiety. No, I need to work out my apprehension."
This open-mindedness, this flexibility, and this fearlessness -- reminding oneself of the big picture, that every new opportunity could yield something wonderful, seeing each opportunity as something positive -- are things that Dr. Wiseman recognized. Also he recognized that lucky people tend not to accept failure in and of itself, meaning that these people see little failures as just part of a work in progress toward their goal.
If you speak to successful businessmen on Wall Street, the majority of them will tell you that they had businesses that failed at some point. They learned their greatest lessons in business by failing, by learning what not to do again, by learning that there might be better options, better avenues. By making mistakes, you learn that maybe you can do it another way.
These kinds of people, when sitting at a game table in Las Vegas, even though they might be losing at the moment, still have the feeling of positivity, saying to themselves, "I'm just going through a losing streak before I hit the big one." With that positive thinking, they would always win. Or else they would think, "This table is not working for me. Let me go to the next table." These people are constantly moving around, not getting bogged down, not being rigid, allowing different opportunities to work in their lives, allowing different ways for God to work in their lives, and being fearless in wanting to try out something new. When they stumble along the way, they see it as a way of reaching their goals.
When babies are taking their first steps, they don't have a concept of failure. Even though they fall, they get up and try again. They don't see it as having failed and that's the end of it. They see it as, "I just have to try again until I take a couple of steps and cross the room." These are the characteristics that Dr. Wiseman noted about people who think of themselves as lucky. When I read his work, the feeling I got about the people he studied in his experiments was that the lucky people tended to be very grateful about their lives, about the things they had, about the experiences they went through. For them, everything was a glass half full as opposed to a glass half empty.
When our True Parents are encouraging us to be gratified in our gratitude, what they are reminding us to do is to remember that we are the lucky people. Not only should we listen to our True Parents telling us that we are lucky people, but we need to start believing in how lucky we are. Even more, just as the Scripture says that you will have what you say, when we tell ourselves that we are the most blessed, the most loved, that's what we become. Again, the power of the spoken word determines what kind of people we are, how we perceive our world, and what we perceive our own luck to be.
As a mother raising five kids and being a sister in a family of 14 siblings, I know the power of the spoken word. As I strove to have a good relationship with my parents, my siblings, my children, one thing I noticed was that when you are working toward a good relationship, you have to think about creating a good marinade. What I mean by that is, you can have the greatest piece of meat, like filet mignon, but if you stick it in a really lousy marinade, it is not going to taste very good.
Interestingly, a marinade determines the flavor of the meat. In a soy sauce marinade, the meat will taste like teriyaki steak. You put that fine piece of meat in a sauce with habanera pepper, and it is going to taste hot. You put that piece of meat in a ginger sauce, and it's going to have a nice zing to it when you're ready to cook it.
When I say that in order to have a good relationship we have to create a good marinade, I mean that the power of the spoken word is like a good marinade in which we put a choice piece of meat. In a family, the power of the spoken word -- how the parents encourage each other verbally, how their love is articulated and transmitted to the kids -- is what creates a marinade for our family. The kind of words that are spoken determines what the final product is going to taste like.
If that marinade is created out of bitterness, with people hating each other, that's what the steak is going to taste like. But if that marinade of the words expressed is that of love, inspiration, encouragement, and empowerment, that is the steak that you will taste.
The Bible also instructs us in Zechariah 10:23 [actually Zechariah 2:10], encouraging us to sing and rejoice. I thought this passage was very interesting because it calls forth all the sisters, mothers, and daughters, asking the feminine to "Sing and rejoice, O daughters of Zion, for I am coming and I will dwell in your midst." God is asking all the women, especially daughters who will be the future mothers, who will be responsible for creating this good marinade, to sing and rejoice. God is reminding the good mothers not to degenerate into feelings of victimization in a family setting, not be the ones gossiping, not be the ones complaining, not be the ones saying, "Woe is me."
God is asking the daughters of Zion to be agents of change, to be those people who are going to create the great marinade for a great relationship in the family. God is asking the daughters of Zion, the future mothers and sisters, to rejoice and to sing, to be so joyful that you express yourself creatively, artistically, and beautifully because God is coming to dwell in your midst. When we can be responsible to create this great marinade, we will be the agents of change who will create a great relationship. And when you have that great relationship, that is the place where God wants to be.
My father gave a lovely speech on September 11th, 1977, about the importance of heart, the importance of getting the heart to move in our lives. He said something that to me is very poignant. He said that no matter how lonely you might have felt, once the heart of God starts moving, you will be filled, the universe will be filled, and you will lack for nothing.
Then how do we go about moving this heart of God? How do we get our heart to move in unison with God? The answer is very simple. It starts with a very important word -- gratitude. Let's recognize how thankful we should be, having God as our Heavenly Parent, being his children, having the opportunity to create an ideal family, to graft onto the original olive tree, to be living at the same time as our True Parents, and how we will be the envy of millions who have come before us and millions who will come after us.
If we realize how incredible our lives are and we see the big picture, we see where God wants to go with us, and we know that every one of us is so important to God and to the providence, then a feeling of gratitude moves our heart together with God. When the heart starts moving, then we are filled, and we lack for nothing. We do not see the cup as half empty. We lack for nothing, for we see the cup as half full.
It's this gratitude that will turn us into lucky people who will be open-minded, flexible, big-minded, fearless, not afraid of failure. This will guarantee our success in life. Once you believe you are lucky, once you know how important and how special you are, then you will do everything that you need to do to become that special someone, to become God's eternal son or daughter.
So brothers and sisters, we are living in an incredible time. You are all jackpot winners, and you are the luckiest people. So have a lucky Sunday, have a lucky week, and God bless.
1: And when they drew near to Jerusalem, to Beth'phage and Bethany, at the Mount of Olives, he sent two of his disciples,
2: and said to them, "Go into the village opposite you, and immediately as you enter it you will find a colt tied, on which no one has ever sat; untie it and bring it.
3: If any one says to you, `Why are you doing this?' say, `The Lord has need of it and will send it back here immediately.'"
4: And they went away, and found a colt tied at the door out in the open street; and they untied it.
5: And those who stood there said to them, "What are you doing, untying the colt?"
6: And they told them what Jesus had said; and they let them go.
7: And they brought the colt to Jesus, and threw their garments on it; and he sat upon it.
8: And many spread their garments on the road, and others spread leafy branches which they had cut from the fields.
9: And those who went before and those who followed cried out, "Hosanna! Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord!
10: Blessed is the kingdom of our father David that is coming! Hosanna in the highest!"
11: And he entered Jerusalem, and went into the temple; and when he had looked round at everything, as it was already late, he went out to Bethany with the twelve.
12: On the following day, when they came from Bethany, he was hungry.
13: And seeing in the distance a fig tree in leaf, he went to see if he could find anything on it. When he came to it, he found nothing but leaves, for it was not the season for figs.
14: And he said to it, "May no one ever eat fruit from you again." And his disciples heard it.
15: And they came to Jerusalem. And he entered the temple and began to drive out those who sold and those who bought in the temple, and he overturned the tables of the money-changers and the seats of those who sold pigeons;
16: and he would not allow any one to carry anything through the temple.
17: And he taught, and said to them, "Is it not written, `My house shall be called a house of prayer for all the nations'? But you have made it a den of robbers."
18: And the chief priests and the scribes heard it and sought a way to destroy him; for they feared him, because all the multitude was astonished at his teaching.
19: And when evening came they went out of the city.
20: As they passed by in the morning, they saw the fig tree withered away to its roots.
21: And Peter remembered and said to him, "Master, look! The fig tree which you cursed has withered."
22: And Jesus answered them, "Have faith in God.
23: Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, `Be taken up and cast into the sea,' and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him.
24: Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.
25: And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against any one; so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses."
27: And they came again to Jerusalem. And as he was walking in the temple, the chief priests and the scribes and the elders came to him,
28: and they said to him, "By what authority are you doing these things, or who gave you this authority to do them?"
29: Jesus said to them, "I will ask you a question; answer me, and I will tell you by what authority I do these things.
30: Was the baptism of John from heaven or from men? Answer me."
31: And they argued with one another, "If we say, `From heaven,' he will say, `Why then did you not believe him?'
32: But shall we say, `From men'?" -- they were afraid of the people, for all held that John was a real prophet.
33: So they answered Jesus, "We do not know." And Jesus said to them, "Neither will I tell you by what authority I do these things."
1: And I lifted my eyes and saw, and behold, a man with a measuring line in his hand!
2: Then I said, "Where are you going?" And he said to me, "To measure Jerusalem, to see what is its breadth and what is its length."
3: And behold, the angel who talked with me came forward, and another angel came forward to meet him,
4: and said to him, "Run, say to that young man, `Jerusalem shall be inhabited as villages without walls, because of the multitude of men and cattle in it.
5: For I will be to her a wall of fire round about, says the LORD, and I will be the glory within her.'"
6: Ho! ho! Flee from the land of the north, says the LORD; for I have spread you abroad as the four winds of the heavens, says the LORD.
7: Ho! Escape to Zion, you who dwell with the daughter of Babylon.
8: For thus said the LORD of hosts, after his glory sent me to the nations who plundered you, for he who touches you touches the apple of his eye:
9: "Behold, I will shake my hand over them, and they shall become plunder for those who served them. Then you will know that the LORD of hosts has sent me.
10: Sing and rejoice, O daughter of Zion; for lo, I come and I will dwell in the midst of you, says the LORD.
11: And many nations shall join themselves to the LORD in that day, and shall be my people; and I will dwell in the midst of you, and you shall know that the LORD of hosts has sent me to you.
12: And the LORD will inherit Judah as his portion in the holy land, and will again choose Jerusalem."
13: Be silent, all flesh, before the LORD; for he has roused himself from his holy dwelling.
1: Ask rain from the LORD in the season of the spring rain,
from the LORD who makes the storm clouds,
who gives men showers of rain,
to every one the vegetation in the field.
2: For the teraphim utter nonsense,
and the diviners see lies;
the dreamers tell false dreams,
and give empty consolation.
Therefore the people wander like sheep;
they are afflicted for want of a shepherd.
3: "My anger is hot against the shepherds,
and I will punish the leaders;
for the LORD of hosts cares for his flock, the house of Judah,
and will make them like his proud steed in battle.
4: Out of them shall come the cornerstone,
out of them the tent peg,
out of them the battle bow,
out of them every ruler.
5: Together they shall be like mighty men in battle,
trampling the foe in the mud of the streets;
they shall fight because the LORD is with them,
and they shall confound the riders on horses.
6: "I will strengthen the house of Judah,
and I will save the house of Joseph.
I will bring them back because I have compassion on them,
and they shall be as though I had not rejected them;
for I am the LORD their God and I will answer them.
7: Then E'phraim shall become like a mighty warrior,
and their hearts shall be glad as with wine.
Their children shall see it and rejoice,
their hearts shall exult in the LORD.
8: "I will signal for them and gather them in,
for I have redeemed them,
and they shall be as many as of old.
9: Though I scattered them among the nations,
yet in far countries they shall remember me,
and with their children they shall live and return.
10: I will bring them home from the land of Egypt,
and gather them from Assyria;
and I will bring them to the land of Gilead and to Lebanon,
till there is no room for them.
11: They shall pass through the sea of Egypt,
and the waves of the sea shall be smitten,
and all the depths of the Nile dried up.
The pride of Assyria shall be laid low,
and the scepter of Egypt shall depart.
12: I will make them strong in the LORD
and they shall glory in his name," says the LORD.